It's the way they do these things -- the logic they employ. Like the birthday policy. There was, what, two, examples of people using birthdays to bring about mischief in the Bible? Then there's the use of the church itself to dictate such things! I'd love to take some people who'd been born and raised in the JW faith and make them visit other churches and see how unobtrusive they are. That's probably why people aren't allowed to do that.
Jesus went to the temple and talked to both the Pharisees and Saducees. He wasn't chastised by his mother about those horrid worldly people. Instead, he spent hours with them! And the folks Jesus criticized sounded more like JWs than they did...Methodists! The whole thing about not visiting other churches should have been a red flag to converts. The beard thing only comes along later. Seeing Jesus without a beard (not to mention the other guy on the torture stake!) was like seeing Hercules without a beard on that horrible cartoon series.
The idea that a person can go to church and be "counseled" by someone they barely know and by people they don't want counseling them is beyond what most other people in other churches could even comprehend. For you people who were converts, what was your reaction to the first time you were counseled?